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Anonymous said: Hi! I wanted to thank you for your newbie FAQ, right now I'm doing lots of research before I decide if sugaring is really for me. Unfortunately I have another newbie question- I like to think I have an above average face and body but I'm a natural redhead with thin limp hair, obviously I want to be as beautiful as possible for future POTs & SDs but will they be put off if I invest in hair extensions?I know you can't speak for all SD's out there, but do the majority want a perfect natural beauty?

Hi sweets! I’m so happy you found it helpful, that’s what it’s there for! ;) 

This is my take on extensions: if they’re quality and look natural, nobody is going to care. If you love it and it makes you comfortable, you should get them! Never go out of your way and alter your body for anyone else, be it a boyfriend, your sugar daddy or a friend tellin you your hair would look better in a bob. Seriously, as long as you’re happy with the way you look, you’re good to go! When you’re confident with the way you look, you will appear even more attractive to others. 

Since this probably isn’t the answer you’re looking for, I’m going to say this: most SDs and POTs want a woman who is naturally beautiful. However, men are as a group terrible at spotting “natural” and “enhanced”. If you are attractive, work with instead of against your features, and don’t go overboard with your makeup and clothes, you should be fine. At the same time, if you want to be extravagant, you should! There’s no right or wrong, different men like different things and if you’re not his cup of tea then he’s not worth your time. Easy as that :)

If this doesn’t make sense, let me know and I’ll try to get it right. xx

Anonymous said: Are you still sugaring?

Not actively, no. I still consider myself a sugar baby though, but right now I’m just going to do me for a while :) 

Anonymous said: How are you selling your used panties? :)

I basically googled “selling used panties” and found a site(Swedish one so unless you live here or whatever it’s no use for me linking it) where you can either put up ads yourself(it costs a small amount of money) or answer other people’s ads. You don’t have to sign up for the site or anything. I wrote a spam message that went something like this: 

Hi, my name is Nextdoor. I’m a 22-year-old student in *****, I’m blonde, sexy and constantly horny. Knowing someone else is turned on because of my turns me on. I’m definitely serious about this, so get in touch as soon as you can. xx

50% of that message is not exactly true, but you’re selling a fantasy. 

You can either send them by mail or meet up, like I’m about to do today. Make sure you demand what you think you’re worth, stand your ground and be firm but polite. If you want $100 then you’re not going to sell them for less. It’s that easy. 

Good luck! x

So Curious went and got himself a girlfriend…

For those of you who don’t know the story, me and Curious started our arrangement in the summer of 2012. We’ve been on many trips and he has been a great SD, if albeit clingy and very, very annoying. I’m honestly thrilled for him that he’s found someone, because he has literally been asking me if I think he’ll die alone for a year now…… It’s bittersweet, no more money but also no more pretending I’m in a coma or that my friend is in a coma or making excuses why I don’t want to see him. He went Splenda almost the entire last year and that sucked, but I also got a ton of experiences from being with him. 

I’m probably not going to look for another SD for a while. I need a break. Probably going to go on some WYP dates, just to keep busy and get nice dinners, but it takes to much effort to actually get back in the bowl. I need to focus on studying and myself for a while. 

I’m kind of sad because there’s no other cookie jar in my life, but it’s also wonderful because I didn’t have to break his heart. He wants to stay friends and that’s what I would like as well.

Can I still call myself a sugar baby now? I wonder. I’d say I can. My mentality is still in it and the day when I stop looking at older men, thinking that they could be the perfect addition to my wallet, is not in sight yet. 

I’m also considering going on the “healthy skinny girl diet” again. I know it’s not exactly healthy, but I do want to lose some weight. Another thing that needs to happen is that I am going to do squats. 30 every day to start off. Anytime during the day, as long as they actually get done!! 

Wow this turned in to a really long post. Tomorrow I’m selling my panties btw. $73 and a glass of wine in exchange for me wearing the same pair of undies for two days and “masturbating” in them. Probably not going to do that. Maybe I will. We’ll see if I feel up to it. I’ll think about money and Precious and I’ll probably be done in a minute.

Okay I’m going to bed now. Night y’all I love you so much. 

Anonymous said: hi!! im actually moving to sweden in august for school and was wondering if it is easy or hard to find POTs/SDs in sweden?

It’s really really really hard. If you want to meet up sometime and go freestyling or whatever, that’d be fun :) come off anon and we can talk! x

Anonymous said: What is a good outfit for your first POT date, ever? I'm new to the sugarbowl and I have been successful in scheduling a few dates, but it's completely different from what I am used to and I just want to WOW them

What to wear for a date depends on what sort of date you’re going on. If your meeting for coffee you don’t want to come in a ball gown, and for a nice dinner date leggings and a chunky knit sweater are obviously not a good choice. 

For my first date with Curious I wore a black flare skirt, nude heels and a while blouse with a few small silver accessories. We met for a nice dinner, albeit more casual than the dates we go on today. 

My best advice though is just to dress as yourself but more polished. My style is pretty girly and flirty, lots of pink and bows so for me to start wearing red femme fatale-kind of dresses would just be obscene. One of my favorite outfits is a black LBD with a pink suit jacket and champagne heels with a matching clutch. It’s put together, sophisticated but still very much me. Find your style and posh it up, haha.

Another thing: heels will save your outfit every time. If you have a date during the day you can go for some nice pants(I’m really not a jeans person so I do a lot of black cigarette pants) and heels. If you have a dinner date, go for a dress or a skirt and heels. If you have to rush out the door to go grab a drink with some friends, throw on a pair of killer stilettos. It’s a life saver and it will put the fear of God into your POT’s heart. 

I don’t know what else to say really. Your question is pretty open-ended so it’s hard to give a good answer really. Hope it helped a little bit though :) 

I can’t fucking deal with this. Curious is 50 years old and sends me this at almost 1am. Thank god he lives so far away.

I can’t fucking deal with this. Curious is 50 years old and sends me this at almost 1am. Thank god he lives so far away.

Anonymous said: So oven trying to be part of the sugar bowl for a while now, and now I finally met a POT but the only thing is that we have never talked about the $$ (an allowance) which is what I would prefer. I'm scared to bring it up, and lose him. What should I do?

  1. Did you meet on a sugar website? If yes, you are both obviously aware that money is to be involved.
  2. Do you ever talk about intimacy/sex? If he talks about that you can talk about money.

Those are the two main questions that both make it 100% that you should bring it up. Even if none of them apply, you still shouldn’t be afraid to bring up an allowance. There are plenty of posts out there that can help you figure out how you’re going to put it, but the best way imo is honestly to just put all the cards on the table. 

"We’ve seen each other a few times and personally I have really enjoyed your company. Maybe it’s time for us to discuss an allowance?" could be a way to start. 

On the train right now, off to a date with Curious. I’m seriously not excited, I’ll probably fall asleep. At least I’m wearing a killer outfit, even though I’m too tired to walk in these 5 inch heels right now… It’s also freezing right now and I’m in a short ass Herve Leger dress, totally not dressed for the weather. Plus I have a cold, haha. Setting myself up for disaster is what I’m doing, but an expensive dinner with expensive wines and money in my pocket at the end of night is always worth it.

shah-zadi said: Will you do an update on Curious and your current sugar lifestyle?

Sure I will, but there’s honestly not much to say really.

Curious and I are still dating, I think… It’s all very unclear. He keeps texting me saying how beautiful and young I am(he has a serious midlife crisis and regrets how he handled his youth so me being half his age is kind of a thing for him I guess) and I keep pretending my phone isn’t working. He quoted Dorian Gray. “I envy you. You have the only two things worth having. Youth and beauty.”
It’s getting a bit too much for me plus he lives in England now and is out of a job. He works on a contract basis so it’s not really a big deal, but he gets infinitely bored and decides to not spend enough money on me for my liking. Therefore I don’t really want to see him until he gets back with a job and is prepared to take me shopping properly.

I don’t want to look for any other SD at the moment, even though I’m pretty much broke it’s all too much work for me right now. Curious is ideal in the way that he doesn’t pressure me into anything and it’s gotten me quite spoiled because I don’t need to do anything except show up beautiful and charming as ever. Since I’m busy with DBT and my mental health and all that crap it feels like too big of a commitment to look for a new man. It’s all too overwhelming. 

One of these days though, I’m going to go on a serious rampage and make sure I get what I deserve. As soon as I get my life and myself together, that it. :) 

Curious got me a tea pot and tea strainer. I told him I would like a YSL Belle de Jour clutch. Maybe that explains my current mood.

How To Be A Teenage Sugar Baby (and not get caught)

sorority-sugar:

neverlandsugarbaby:

sorority-sugar:

neverlandsugarbaby:

So a couple of my friends know about my secret lifestyle and they’re just desperate to know how I do it!
For those who don’t know, I’m 16 years old and I’m still in high school. I juggle school and friends and a job all while satisfying my multiple sugar daddies and getting wonderful things from…

IF YOU ARE UNDER 18 YOU SHOULDNT BE IN THE SUGAR BOWL!!! It’s illegal to have a sexual relationship with an older man if you’re that young and I guarantee you the normal, non-pedophile SD’s you want that will offer good allowances would flip their shit if they realized their SB had lied to them and was underage because they can go to jail for that. Being an underage SB makes you an easy target for RAPE, ASSAULT, MURDER and many other harmful situations. DO NOT ENCOURAGE UNDERAGE GIRLS TO TRY SUGARING. It’s way harder than it looks and you need to have your own car/transportation. How are you gonna hide it from your parents?…where are you gonna go with your SD to hang out if you’re under 18? The mall? Olive Garden? REPEAT FOR EMPHASIS- DO NOT ATTEMPT TO SUGAR IF YOURE UNDERAGE

Hello, uninformed person. Did you even read the guide? Obviously not. Please read it before you start an argument about things that I do NOT promote in my guide.

Listen CHILD don’t you fucking dare insult me or talk down to me because you don’t like what I have to say. I’ve been in the sugar bowl for over a year and a half and I’m not an idiot nor am I naive. I read the first bullet point and stopped after “do not get sexual and keep it online”. 99% of these men don’t want to pay for a purely online “relationship” where all your doing is skyping and their dick isn’t getting any action. They could easily go on cam sites and pay a lot less to get a lot more than you’re suggesting. I’m 22 years old and I have almost 2 years of sugaring under my belt so watch your sassy ass mouth. You’re still in high school and you know nothing of the way the REAL sugar bowl works and how men work for that matter. Who is honestly going to take the advice of a 16 year old seriously…Please take a seat.

neverlandsugarbaby:

sorority-sugar:

neverlandsugarbaby:

sorority-sugar:

neverlandsugarbaby:

So a couple of my friends know about my secret lifestyle and they’re just desperate to know how I do it!
For those who don’t know, I’m 16 years old and I’m still in high school. I juggle school and friends and a job all while satisfying my multiple sugar daddies and getting wonderful things from…

IF YOU ARE UNDER 18 YOU SHOULDNT BE IN THE SUGAR BOWL!!! It’s illegal to have a sexual relationship with an older man if you’re that young and I guarantee you the normal, non-pedophile SD’s you want that will offer good allowances would flip their shit if they realized their SB had lied to them and was underage because they can go to jail for that. Being an underage SB makes you an easy target for RAPE, ASSAULT, MURDER and many other harmful situations. DO NOT ENCOURAGE UNDERAGE GIRLS TO TRY SUGARING. It’s way harder than it looks and you need to have your own car/transportation. How are you gonna hide it from your parents?…where are you gonna go with your SD to hang out if you’re under 18? The mall? Olive Garden? REPEAT FOR EMPHASIS- DO NOT ATTEMPT TO SUGAR IF YOURE UNDERAGE

Hello, uninformed person. Did you even read the guide? Obviously not. Please read it before you start an argument about things that I do NOT promote in my guide.

Listen CHILD don’t you fucking dare insult me or talk down to me because you don’t like what I have to say. I’ve been in the sugar bowl for over a year and a half and I’m not an idiot nor am I naive. I read the first bullet point and stopped after “do not get sexual and keep it online”. 99% of these men don’t want to pay for a purely online “relationship” where all your doing is skyping and their dick isn’t getting any action. They could easily go on cam sites and pay a lot less to get a lot more than you’re suggesting. I’m 22 years old and I have almost 2 years of sugaring under my belt so watch your sassy ass mouth. You’re still in high school and you know nothing of the way the REAL sugar bowl works and how men work for that matter. Who is honestly going to take the advice of a 16 year old seriously…Please take a seat.

Okay, dear, that’s what you think. That 1% of men who are specifically looking for online relationships is more than enough. I think you read my first rule wrong. If you would please scroll down you will see that getting sexy is sort of recommended. Again, you’re only making yourself look like more of an idiot in front of your followers who look up to you for advice.

As another 22-year-old sugar baby who’s also been in the bowl for two years, I’ll try to explain what Sorority is trying to get through to you. 

You are a teenager. I’m about to sound like a grandma right now, but when I was 16 I thought I was mature enough for stuff like this too. Maybe you are more mature than I was, maybe you’re not. No matter your mental age, you are legally underage and should absolutely not be dabbling in matters of this size. It might not seem like such a big deal, but you are literally jeopardizing the freedom of men who now trust you. Since you are under the age of 18, any nude photos you take are considered child pornography and being in possession of said photos is illegal and punishable with up to 20 years in prison. Idk about American law about this, but in Sweden you would be committing a crime just by taking the pictures. 

Men are complicated creatures, and you are probably much more skilled and I was at 16 when it comes to stroking a 50-year-old man’s ego, but it doesn’t make what you’re doing right. You need to calm down and go to school. Being a SB isn’t about cheating your way into a man’s pocket or faking your entire identity. I am absolutely not going to lecture you about not telling lies because who am I kidding, I was in a ‘coma’ for a few months because I didn’t want to talk to my SD. However, you need to understand that the way you go about sugaring is all wrong. You have to be yourself, but better. Any lie you tell is to enhance who you are, not conceal it. If you find yourself needing to create a fake persona so you won’t get caught by your parents, you’re obviously doing something wrong. 

I need you to understand is that you are casting a negative light on those of us who are actually doing this for real. We are fighting an uphill batter against society, as all sex workers do. Underage girls thinking they have it all planned out does not strengthen the case that SBs as a group are strong, capable and intelligent women. This isn’t something we engage in for shits and giggles. This is how we live our lives. The reason we try to stay anonymous online and keep it from our loved ones out of it is because the world we live in today would judge us, not because our mom would cut off our internet and ground us. 

You probably feel like this is all a bunch of hate raining down on you, but let me tell you that it’s not. Having 6 years of life experience more than you, just listen when I say that you need to stop. You aren’t a child but you’re for sure not an adult either. Just finish high school, turn 18 and then you can come back and actually be a real sugar baby and not some hidden, made up “woman” sitting in your room sexting via Skype. Frankly speaking, it’s very disrespectful to us who dedicate a big chunk of our lives to this lifestyle. 

(It’s late at night right now and this probably doesn’t make any sense but it’s an important issue and it needs to be said so you’re just gonna have to excuse my terrible writing and grammar.)

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Anonymous said: the only ones supporting you are sb too! so it's not something to be proud of! and then, when you're all so fine with your lifestyle, why don't you post a pic of your face?! and just because you're paid for being with someone, it doesn't mean you're successful !!! i mean, someone who's proud of having expensive clothes and bags, has nothing to really be proud of!!!

Since society in general is unsupportive of sex workers in any shape or form, I have chosen to be anonymous online. Not because I am ashamed, but because you want me to be. Just like many other girls on here can agree upon, keeping our privacy is only important because of bigoted people like you. My closest, most trusted friends know about my sugaring and support me no matter what, but since you can’t see them they must not exist. How silly of me to not mention each of my friends and my entire support system online so a tiny little gray person can judge my life more accurately!

Maybe having expensive, beautiful things around me isn’t something to brag about in itself, but I pride myself in the way I’ve acquired. Even though I’m usually shy and in many cases scared of the world, I decided that I wanted luxurious things and I worked for it. Using my wits and charm, hocus pocus, here you have me with a $300 haircut and Prada bag standing next to my cup of ridiculously overpriced, ridiculously delicious green tea. It’s might not be a well paid job at a law firm or a master’s degree in economy, but it’s a victory to me and I didn’t compromise even once while getting here. And trust me, I’m not done yet! 

I am an articulate, above-average intelligent and beautiful young woman and I obviously know what to do with those gifts. If you don’t agree that a person being satisfied with what they’ve accomplished is a success, then we have severely different opinions on what the word means. The lifestyle I entered two years ago has paid off in ways I didn’t think imaginable; not only so in material objects but personal growth and experiences. So arguably, I would say that I have plenty of things to be proud of. Now what do you have to show off as your success?

Sorry for going on a rant, I just think people need to know what’s going on and why being a sugar baby isn’t anything to be ashamed of. We need to change the way we view sex workers, not frown upon those who chose to engage in that kind of work! 

kinkkykitty-deactivated20140723 said: Hey! I was wondering what you advise me to do when I've been contacting a POT and when I finally see/meet him, he's not attractive enough for me to pursue an arrangement. I mean they can't all be silver foxes, but if they are no where near the kind of looks I could put up with for the $$, what then?

Hi dear! Well, if you can’t put up with it then you can’t put up with it, right? Unless you can manage to land a platonic arrangement I’d say you need to give it up. Curious was not the least bit attractive when I first met him, and even though he’s grown on me he is NOWHERE NEAR attractive. It just depends on how much you personally can stand. Nobody can answer this for you but you, just look into your heart and go with your gut :) good luck! x

Also, my laptop STILL isn’t charging so I can’t post what happened Saturday with Curious. You’ll love it though, quite the story.